Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Putting on My Big Girl Pants

Well, yesterday I had to suck it up and put on my big girl pants to broach the subject of what Bryan really wants out of "us". We've been hanging out a lot lately but in the back of my mind I was still a little worried about the fact that he wasn't looking for anything right now. So, last night I asked him if he "knew how to be single". He just laughed and said "I'm not doing a very good job of it!".

In a nutshell, we had a long conversation about what we wanted to do and we decided that it would probably be best if we took a break from things so that he could be "single". He said that meeting me had put a kink in his plan and that it sucks because he really likes me. Well, I like him too, but I told him I also have to look out for myself and I don't want to go down a certain road for too long and then have him figure out that he wants something else. He agreed and as much as we neither one of us wants it we're going to stop communication for a couple of weeks and then reconnect to see where things stand.

Of course, today my Match inbox is blowing up again. I literally haven't received one wink or email since I started seeing Bryan and now today the creepers are back. I swear, Match has some sort of spidey sense about these things. Naturally, its no one that I'm the least bit interested in, which makes it all the more annoying about this thing with Bryan. He wants me to date while we take this break, but the thing is I don't really want to. And I especially don't want to deal with Match bs! Although, when I logged on today I saw that Bryan had viewed my profile. I'm not really sure what that means, but it seems important to mention :)

I'm trying to stay positive about the whole situation and hopeful that he'll see that I'm the best girl for him. I know I just need to wait it out a little bit, but it sucks!! My Match subscription is up in two days and I'm not going to renew it, but maybe I'll check out some of the free dating web sites and see what I come up with...

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

An Update

I wanted to give everyone a quick update on the Bryan situation. We decided to have a lunch date yesterday because his school is just up the street from my apartment and during the week he doesn't have a whole lot of free time at night because he's doing school work. So we grabbed some lunch and then came back to my place to eat on the rooftop deck at my complex. It was a nice day and the sun was out so we decided to have a "picnic" lunch on the roof. It was very Bachelor-esque :) Although we didn't land on the roof via helicopter on anything like!

We're having lunch and I decide to broach the whole past relationship question. Because if you remember on our second date he told me that he just recently got out of a long term relationship but I didn't have any more information than that. Well, in a nutshell, he ended his last relationship "a couple of weeks ago" and it was a 7-yr relationship! Not exactly the answer I was looking for!! Apparently he's a serial relationship guy, so he's looking to spend some time being single. Which I told him I can completely appreciate and understand. I also asked him why he decided to get on Match. He said that he hadn't met a lot of people since moving back to Austin and starting school, so he was using it as a way to meet people, plus he had friends that had told him good things about it. But the thing is (and I didn't tell him this) he's not acting like he wants to be single! I mean, he invited half his class to my Super Bowl party and was not shy about being affectionate towards me and then after our lunch we date we made out for like an hour! So his actions aren't exactly matching up to his words.

He also invited me to meet up with him and his friends Friday night for karaoke. Then today he called me to ask me out for a "pre-Valentine's Day" dinner on Saturday night because he won't be able to do anything on Monday! I mean, we're practically dating but just not saying it! I don't know, I'm going to continue to see where things go. It could get me in trouble down the road, BUT I have a lot of fun with him and we have chemistry and its been a long time since I've had that with anyone. Call me selfish (or just plain stupid), but I want to see where things go. If only it could be easy and uncomplicated!

Monday, February 7, 2011

A Super Bowl Win

Although I only saw about 10 minutes worth of the game last night, I do know this. The Packers scored enough touchdowns to pull out the win and I scored a few touchdowns myself :)

I hosted a Super Bowl party last night and I invited Bryan. He in turn invited a couple of friends from his MBA program, which was great because the more the merrier. At the beginning of the night, I was running around letting people into my apartment complex and making sure that everyone had food and drinks so I felt kind of bad because I wasn't able to pay that much attention to him. But the great thing was that he and his friends fit right in with everyone! Everyone was really friendly and social, and I didn't have to worry at all about everyone getting along. It was perfect!

Bryan stuck around for awhile after the game and it was just Bryan, me, Wes, Jamie and Jamie's roommate and her boyfriend and it felt totally comfortable. There was no awkwardness and Bryan fit right in like he's been around forever. It was actually quite nice :) Then when we were talking later in the night he said, "Thanks for having me and my friends over tonight. They all thought that you were really cool" So it sounds like I got friend approved! Overall it was a really good night and things are looking positive!

We still need to have a conversation around his last relationship and him "not really looking for anything" but I feel like things are going really well. So I'm staying hopeful that he's open to exploring what we might have together, because I kind of feel like we're already dating!

Friday, February 4, 2011

Question of The Day...Answered

Well, I thought about just reposting the first half of yesterday's post but with a different ending :) But let me start from the beginning...

I met up with Bryan at a Mexican food restaurant last night for dinner and drinks. Dinner was great, good conversation, good food and good margaritas...pretty much a perfect combination in my mind! We finished dinner at around 8pm and he asked if I would be up for doing something else which I definitely was. So then we decided to go to Highball - a place where they have bowling lanes and drinks. We weren't able to get a lane but there was a band playing so we went and watched the band for a little while, while we had a drink.

Now at this point in the date, everything was going well. We were having a good time and getting a little flirty with each other. But then Bryan says, "Can I ask you a question?" which immediately made me nervous because he was hesitating on how he wanted to ask it. All I could think was "What the hell does he want to ask me?" He asked what I wanted to get out of "this" - meaning me and him. Of course, I'm standing there fumbling my words but I basically said I don't know what I want to get out of "this". I said I know I'd like to see you again but I don't have any pre-conceived ideas about anything. I'm basically looking to hang out with someone that I can have fun with and have a good time. So of course, I had to ask why he was asking me this and he said because he had just gotten out of a long term relationship and wasn't really looking for anything right now. That he was looking to have fun and meet people but not much else right now. Kind of a bummer but I don't think it completely closes the door on things, because I know he wants to hang out again. Luckily, though, things only got better from there :)

After a drink at Highball, we decided to head downtown to have a few more drinks. It was pretty dead because its been really cold here lately and there just weren't very many people out and about. But we found a bar that had live music, cheap drinks and where we wouldn't be the only people in the bar! And we just had fun. There was a lot of flirtatious touching, laughing and overall just a good time. We had a couple of drinks and then decided to head home. At this point we were in his car and my car was back at the restaurant, so as we're driving back to get my car, Bryan asks me if I would want to go back to his place for a little while. All I could think was "Oh geez, am I really going to do this!?!"

I'm sure you can guess my answer...which is yes, I did go over to his place. BUT all we did is make out, although clothing was optional :) He definitely wanted to do more than make out, but I told him I wasn't ready to have sex. I also didn't stay the night, although he offered up the option. So I guess in the end, I kind of proved my theory but I kind of didn't. I was definitely attracted to him from the beginning of the night (I didn't need any cocktails to help me with that!), but I'm also glad that we broached some of those sexual barriers by having a hot and heavy make out session which was certainly easier to do with a few drinks in my system. In the end, a little liquid courage was good to have but I would have made out with him even if we hadn't been drinking, which I think is a good sign!

Thursday, February 3, 2011

Question of The Day

Why does it feel like I'm only attracted to guys after I've consumed several cocktails? And I don't mean it in that I'm not attracted to guys because I am and I clearly don't play for the other team. But in the sense that it seems like the real "attraction" never comes until I've had a drunk make-out session at the bar. Maybe its just that I'm more fun after a few cocktails!

But honestly, when I think back to how some of my previous relationships have started, I hate to admit it, but a majority of them have started after a night of drinking at the bar and hooking up. Sometimes going all the way or sometimes "hooking up but not having sex" as my friend would say. Obviously there are pros and cons to starting a relationship this way. Pros: there are less inhibitions and lets be honest, you're drunk so you think that you look like a million bucks and are a master in the sack! Cons: you've now given away "the goods" and there's no going back to just light make out sessions. Plus it can be kind of awkward in the morning when you realize that you've just spent the night with someone that you don't know that well and you're trying to find your underwear :)

Now, this did NOT happen last night. I went out with Cole and we went to this restaurant Barley Swine that I've been wanting to check out. The food was awesome, but the company was so so. He's a nice enough guy but he wasn't as cute the second time around. What I'm trying to figure out is if I should go out with him again to see if we start to "click" more or if after two dates, since I'm not really feeling it, should I move on? I mean, should I be giving these guys more of a chance? But at the same time, I usually know pretty early on if I like someone or not, but lately I've just been so blah about everyone I meet. 

Tonight I have a date with Bryan and I hope it goes well. My concern with him is that I don't think that he has a lot of extra time to date right now and I feel like I'm the one who is pushing things forward. But I'm going to stay positive and hopeful that things will go well and that something more will come out of it than just two dates!

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

One other thought...

Its not fair how easy guys have it when it comes to dressing for these casual dates. They can just show up in a t-shirt and jeans and look incredibly hot. When I have to do my hair, put on makeup AND find that perfect outfit that says "I totally just threw this together at the last minute" eventhough it was thought out all afternoon so that I have the perfect combination of cute and casual. Its just not fair!

Also, to all of my friends in Chicago and the midwest. Stay warm and don't go outside unless you absolutely have to!

Hottie Alert!

My coffee date with the hottie went well! It was a gorgeous day on Monday, so we met at a place that we could sit outside and enjoy the nice weather. He's very personable, well-traveled, smart and lets not forget the best part...good looking! And he was just as cute in person as he was in his profile pictures!! We exchanged phone numbers at the end of the date agreed to meet up again sometime later in the week. At that point I thought I was still going to be traveling to Chicago but since that trip got cancelled I texted him last night to see if he would want to meet up on Thursday night. He agreed to dinner and drinks, yay! Here's a picture of him.

I also have another date tonight with Cole, the guy from last Friday night. I'm more interested in Bryan (above) but Cole is really nice too so we'll see how long I can juggle both of them :) But I'm really excited because we're going to a restaurant that I've been wanting to try for awhile tonight and Cole some how knows the chef and/or owner (I can't remember which). It should be fun and I'm looking forward to it.

I'll leave you with another awesome profile pic. This guy emailed me yesterday and when I looked at his main profile pic, I thought that maybe he was a transvestite - I know that sounds horrible but he looked very effeminate in his picture! But then I clicked on his profile and found this picture and all I could think was "Jackpot!!"

Monday, January 31, 2011

Friday Date Night

I had my first date since rejoining Match on Friday night. We went to a wine and tapas bar, which was really good, and overall the date went pretty well. I think I will definitely see him again just to see if there is any "spark" but if nothing else, we had a good time Friday night. A couple of things to note:

1) He's only 26. I know, I know, it isn't THAT young but for some reason it just seems young to me. Maybe its because he's never had a real job. His dad plays on the PGA and Senior PGA tour and he caddies for him. Sounds like a ton of fun, but not a real job in my opinion.
2) What is it with guys in their mid-twenties and Mustang cars? One of my best friends in Chicago, her boyfriend drives a Mustang and a friend of a friend here in Austin, her now husband drove a Mustang in his early twenties. If you haven't guessed, he drives a Mustang :) I found this out when we valet parked and they brought his car before mine. I guess I just don't get the "mystic" or "cool-factor" behind Mustangs but it seems like lately I know a lot of people driving them!
3) When I walked into the bar on Friday night, the first person I saw was actually a person that I knew from the gym. Kind of awkward but funny because it was a guy and I went up to give him a hug before I went to my date's table. I could see out of the corner of my eye, my date get up like he was going to greet me but then he saw me hugging another guy and wasn't sure what to do! I knew this would happen sooner or later, but luckily I ran into someone that would just give me a hard time at the gym, not someone that I wouldn't actually want to see me on a date!

I've also got a coffee date with a super cutie this afternoon. Which naturally intimidates me and makes me nervous. It doesn't help matters that he hasn't seemed that interested in our emails back and forth and I was the one who suggested getting together. If nothing else, at least I will be able to say that I went out with one really hot guy through Match! But I'm hoping it goes well because he's really good looking!!

Still no word from Cotton Bowl guy. I think I'm going to send him one last text this week to invite him (again) to my Super Bowl party but then leave it at that. But I want to say something about the fact that I don't understand why he hasn't responded to any of my correspondence and that I was hoping that we could be friends. Although honestly, I was hoping we could be more than friends but that seems pretty unlikely now. Any suggestions on what exactly I should say? Except why are you being an asshole and not returning my texts or emails :)

Friday, January 28, 2011

Settle in and prepare to laugh...a lot!

Oh ladies, this is going to be one hell of a post. I have some profile pics to share today that are AH-MAZ-ING!!! All of these guys have either emailed me or "winked" at me in last couple of days. And you wonder why I complain about there only being weirdos on Match, well, here's my proof :) The good news though is that I am talking to two cuties right now and I have date with one of them tonight. I fill you in on that in a different post.

And now, I present to you "The Creepers of Match"

Now, if you look closely, you can see that he has a mullet!!! And what makes it even better is that his name is Roy, which seems appropriate. This guy emailed me yesterday and wanted to know if I would meet up with him for dinner or drinks that night. I very quickly sent a "No Thanks" generic email.

These are a couple of pictures from this guy's profile. He's got the triple whammy of bad pictures - in his car, at the gym and in this bathroom. He isn't my type to begin with, but his pictures certainly don't help his case. Although they do make me laugh :)

This guy winked at me and I'm pretty sure he's winked at me before because I remember this picture. Again, why in the world do guys think that its appropriate to take a picture of themselves in the bathroom mirror? For god's sake, get a friend to take a picture of you!

Now this picture is just odd. I don't get it, at all! However, my friend Tasha is talking to him right now (his other pictures are better) and he is one of my "Daily 5" matches, so the plan is for me to reach out to him too and see if we can both score a date with him :) It should be a fun little game!

I've save the best for last. If you have an aversion to hairy legs or man thighs, you may want to skip this last picture. Drum roll, please!

Yes, this is actually a picture in someones profile that winked at me!! Why, why, why?!? Nobody wants to see a crotch shot, let alone your hairy legs in spandex shorts. This is definitely the worst (aka the best) picture that I've come across so far.

This picture is of the same guy, but with clothes on. Although he's wearing pleated jeans, which is just sad!

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

No response...yet

Well, there's still no response from Kevin (aka Cotton Bowl guy). I guess I'll give him another day or so, but at this point its just becoming rude! I mean, at least respond to something!! There are some things that I just will never understand.

So since I don't have any real news to report, I thought I would entertain you guys with a few pictures of guys that have either contacted me recently or have viewed my profile and have totally creeped me out. Prepare to grimace, laugh and be astonished and some of the pictures that these guys post :)

As my friend so aptly put it "Oh geez, he looks like a child molester!" Yes, I couldn't agree more. He winked at me last week sometime. He did not receive a wink in return.

This guy claims he's 24 years old. There is no possible way that this guy is 24!! I mean, he looks at least 35! I'm sorry, I just don't buy it.

This guy has me listed as one of his "Favorites"...that's a title I definitely don't want! I mean, he looks like a guy who keeps his "favorites" locked in a room where they receive "special" treatment. No thank you!

Monday, January 24, 2011

Well, that didn't last long!

Ok, ladies. I'm back! There's just to many things going on for me not to keep all of you up to speed :)

1) I'm back on Match. I know, I know. I said that I would never do Match again, but they tricked me! I had closed my account but then they said "He emailed you". Well, hell, of course now I want to know who emailed me! The thing was, no one had...tricky little bastards. But I only signed up for one month and then I think I'm going to switch to a free service. Let's be honest, I really don't have anything else going for me, so I might as well go on a few more awkward dates and keep you guys entertained :)

2) I found Cotton Bowl boy on Match!! I really don't understand whats going on with him, but I sent him an email joking around about how we keep running into each other. I actually texted him a couple of days after the Cotton Bowl but he never responded. I figure I'll give him another chance to respond through Match, but if he doesn't I don't know whats going to happen. I just don't understand why someone would rather try their luck on Match rather than go out with someone they actually know!! Hell, at this point, we don't need to date but it would be nice to expand my circle of guy friends if nothing else. Sometimes I just don't understand men...scratch that, most of the time I don't understand men!

3) I think I'm going to try some social experiments on any dates that I go on. My friend Tristy and I agreed to act completely different than we normally would with guys that we're not really interested in. So instead of being the polite, nice, fun girl, maybe I'll be a bitchy, crazy, jealous girl. Or someone who is rude and talks about them self the whole time. I'm not sure how it will all work out, but it should be fun!!

Monday, January 10, 2011

End of an Era

Ladies, its the end of era. I'm officially hanging up my online dating shoes. I went out with coffee date guy again, and I just can't do it anymore! The date wasn't awful and he's a nice enough guy, but I'm not interested in the slightest in ever seeing him again let alone having to eventually kiss him! Plus, now I have to "end things" some how after going out twice. Its just not worth the annoyance of having to deal with all of that bullsh*t...

But don't worry, I wouldn't leave without at least one more good story for you :) And I've actually got two! So, I met up with coffee guy at a restaurant/bar that also has a bowling alley in it. I got there a little before he did and I went to check on the availability of a lane and when I got back to the front he was there. I go up to him and say, nice to see you again and I was going to give him a hug (because I didn't really know what else to do) and what does he do, he sticks out his hand! We literally shook hands!! Awful! So that didn't get things started on the best foot. Then through the course of the night, he tells me that his favorite restaurant is Texas Roadhouse (seriously!?!) and that he tends to really enjoy chain restaurants. Ok, I'm not a foodie (well, maybe a little bit of one), but I do love food and love to try new things and new restaurants so the fact that he likes chain restaurants kind of bothers me. Plus I think he really loves buffets, which is even worse! He also doesn't drink beer or wine and his go to drink is Amaretto Sours. Needless to say, we don't exactly have a lot in common :) We ended up not bowling, going to a Mexican food restaurant (were he ordered a bean and cheese burrito, does it get any more boring?) and then when we left he didn't even walk me to my car. I'm hoping that he got the vibe that I'm not interested but I'm sure I'm going to have to send some sort of break up email.

My second story really sums up the guys I've met over the last couple of months. I'm literally laughing as I write this because it cracks me up how idiotic guys are. So this guy had emailed me back in December and we'd emailed a few times and I guess at some point I must have said that I would meet up with him for a drink but then it was the holidays and I wasn't that interested anyways so I never emailed back. Then a couple of days ago he emailed me again and said that he would still really like to meet up sometime. Now granted, I haven't "talked" to this guy in literally two or three weeks, but I decide that the nice thing to do is to email him back and let him know that I won't be able to meet up with him. I basically said that I appreciate his persistence but that I'm taking a break from dating and that my schedule over the next couple of months is going to be pretty crazy. This is his response "Then don't tell someone that you will go out with them and then chicken out this is a dating website not a chat room." Ok, a) maybe I told you a month ago that I would go out with you, b) I'm allowed to change my mind and c) its obvious now why you're online dating, because you have the social skills of a sharp cabinet corner that I just hit my head on. I mean seriously, you're going to get upset that someone doesn't want to meet up with you after they've made no effort to contact you in the last 30 days?!? Give me a break!

So that was the last straw, I just can't deal with it anymore. However, I do have one last interesting story of someone that I actually would be interested in seeing again :) My family and I along with my friend Tasha went to the Cotton Bowl last weekend in Dallas. We get to our seats and we're watching the pre-game warmup and everything and right before the game starts this guy sitting in the row in front of us but a couple of seats down turns around to me and says "Are you from Stratford?" - that's my hometown - and I say, "Yes???" and then I realize that I know him but I'm not exactly sure how. Well, long story short, he's a guy that I had actually met in Chicago through an old college friend. And when I first moved to Chicago I hung out with this college buddy and his group of friends quite a bit, but I haven't talked to my college friend or seen this guy in years. And I have to admit, it took me pretty much the whole first half to realize how I knew him! Then at half time I switched seats with my brother so that I could talk to him. I felt so bad because he said "I turned around and recognized you immediately and knew exactly how I knew you" - which made me feel good and bad at the same time! Anyways, he's cute, he's single (yay!!), has a good job (he's an optometrist), now lives in Austin and we actually have things in common!! We exchanged phone numbers and I think I'm going to call him this week to see if he wants to meet up for drinks :)

So after its all said and done, blogging has been fun and online dating has been adventurous but maybe it comes down to running into someone from your past in the most random place possible. Who knows where it will go, but either way, I hope you all have enjoyed the blog and I appreciate everyone that reads it!

Love ya!

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Not bad for a coffee date

Well, my coffee date ended up going pretty well. We hung out for two-plus hours and surprisingly I wasn't looking at my watch the whole time wondering when the torture was going to end :) And I can legitimately say that this guy is cute! I have to admit, most of the guys that I've gone out with so far probably haven't had that distinction. But he was cute and a decent dresser, so that got him another check in the "pros" column. The one thing that could be an issue down the road is that he's not real tall. I was wearing boots with probably a two-inch heel and we were almost the same height...

I'm also meeting up with a different guy tomorrow night for drinks. Not especially excited about this one (he's the guy I cancelled on last week) but I feel like I at least need to meet up once with him. He's a professional bird watcher so I'm hoping to at least get a good story out of it for you guys!

Lastly, last night I wrote my first "buzzed" match email. I'd had a bad afternoon and was enjoying a glass of wine (or three) and decided to get online to check out my latest matches. Bad idea!! I found a guy that I thought was cute and decided, I'm just going to email him right now. Well, I started off the email saying that I wasn't a fan of the University of Texas (probably not my best opener since he's a huge fan) and then at some point I called myself a fun and interesting girl! Oy vey!! I also "Sanderlized" him with a reverse statement - I know not everyone knows what that is but basically its used in a sales call when you don't think the prospect is going to make a decision. You tell the prospect that we may not be a good match and if that's the case, then that's okay we can just both go on our separate ways - this usually makes the prospect say "We're a great match and definitely interested in working with you". I didn't go into that much detail but I did say "I hope to hear back from you, and if not, no worries!" Definitely don't need to be drinking and getting online, obviously :) Oh well, all I can do is laugh about it today!

Monday, January 3, 2011

Happy New Year!!

I hope that everyone had a wonderful New Year! I know mine was filled with lots of champagne and great friends. Actually it was filled with a little too much champagne because I don't remember the last two hours of the night :) Needless to say I didn't meet any hotties because I was way to much of a hot mess!! Oh well, at least it was fun!

I do however have a coffee date tonight. I haven't gone on many coffee dates, usually its to meet up for drinks. So it will be interesting to see how it goes tonight because it seems a little weird to me to order more than one coffee drink, where as if you meet up at a bar it would be normal to order more than one...we'll see. Anyways, he's at least decent looking but there are a few red flags. 1) He's divorced - I know that doesn't mean much, but its burned me in the past; 2) He's 27 but looks about 23 - its just a number, I know, but it would be nice to meet someone who is a little more established!; 3) His favorite dessert is chocolate cake from the Golden Corral - some of you know this and some of you don't, but I have real disdain for buffet restaurants. I guess none of it really matters because I'm still meeting him tonight, but I just wanted to throw those things at there.

So those are the details on my date tonight. If I'm lucky, I'll have a good story for you gals tomorrow :)