There was success on two fronts this weekend. 1) We kissed! (actually we made out for like an hour at the bar) and 2) Gage met some of my friends and everyone seemed to really like him. The funniest thing though that happened was Gage asked me how did I tell my friends that we met? I of course, just said "I told them that we met through Match" and he was mortified! Oh, if he only knew :)
Its looking more and more like this is actually going to go somewhere, which is a good and a bad thing. Its good because its nice to date someone again who isn't totally crazy. But its bad because the whole point of this blog was to write about all of the bad dates that I was supposed to go on! I think I may have to start pawning off some of my friend's stories because I know there are few of you out there that are trying the online dating circuit too. Or I may just have to revive some of my old dating stories....
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Thursday, November 4, 2010
Another date!
I had another successful date with Gage last night! I'd been wanting to check out this restaurant, Foreign & Domestic, that I had heard good things about so on Monday night I texted him to see if he wanted to do dinner on Wednesday (last night). He responded with a "hell, yeah" so I took that as a good sign that he's at least a little bit interested :)
The restaurant was cool but the menu was a little more eclectic than I was expecting so, I told Gage that I hoped he was feeling adventurous! We had a couple of appetizers: popovers (which were AMAZING, they are basically a big croissant like bread filled with cheese, yum!), an arugula salad and venison heart tartare. Yes, you read that right - venison heart tartare! I told you we were being adventurous :) The tartare actually wasn't bad because it didn't have much taste. Then for entrees I got a braised pork belly and he got a guinea hen leg and thigh. Overall, I would say that the food was good and I liked the atmosphere, but I'm not sure it will become a regular staple on my restaurant circuit.
We sat at our table until about 10pm but we could tell that the restaurant was closing down, and we wanted to keep talking so we decided to just sit in Gage's truck. I know it sounds very high school but it was basically our only option! Its interesting though because even though I've only been on four dates with Gage, we never run out of things to talk about. But we also discuss some pretty serious topics, which is a first for me. I told him last night that we had talked about more serious topics in four dates than I ever did with my ex-boyfriend of two years!! He just really intrigues me (which I told him that last night too) and he's definitely not like anyone I've ever dated before. And he said the same thing about me. So I think there is a possibility of this going somewhere :)
Two things of note. 1) He likes Riesling wine! Ugh! I'm definitely going to have to convert him to a red wine drinker :) 2) No kiss yet! He had the perfect opportunity last night, but nothing! I'm not saying I need a full-blown make out session, but a kiss good night certainly doesn't hurt anyone. I know I just need to be patient but it needs to happen at some point, right?!?
The restaurant was cool but the menu was a little more eclectic than I was expecting so, I told Gage that I hoped he was feeling adventurous! We had a couple of appetizers: popovers (which were AMAZING, they are basically a big croissant like bread filled with cheese, yum!), an arugula salad and venison heart tartare. Yes, you read that right - venison heart tartare! I told you we were being adventurous :) The tartare actually wasn't bad because it didn't have much taste. Then for entrees I got a braised pork belly and he got a guinea hen leg and thigh. Overall, I would say that the food was good and I liked the atmosphere, but I'm not sure it will become a regular staple on my restaurant circuit.
We sat at our table until about 10pm but we could tell that the restaurant was closing down, and we wanted to keep talking so we decided to just sit in Gage's truck. I know it sounds very high school but it was basically our only option! Its interesting though because even though I've only been on four dates with Gage, we never run out of things to talk about. But we also discuss some pretty serious topics, which is a first for me. I told him last night that we had talked about more serious topics in four dates than I ever did with my ex-boyfriend of two years!! He just really intrigues me (which I told him that last night too) and he's definitely not like anyone I've ever dated before. And he said the same thing about me. So I think there is a possibility of this going somewhere :)
Two things of note. 1) He likes Riesling wine! Ugh! I'm definitely going to have to convert him to a red wine drinker :) 2) No kiss yet! He had the perfect opportunity last night, but nothing! I'm not saying I need a full-blown make out session, but a kiss good night certainly doesn't hurt anyone. I know I just need to be patient but it needs to happen at some point, right?!?
Monday, November 1, 2010
Dates 2 & 3
Yep, that's right. I had dates two and three with Gage this weekend :) Things are definitely leaning in a positive way, but I'm not quite ready to say how I think things will end up.
The dates. So we ended up going to a haunted house on Saturday night. I was a little nervous because I haven't been to a haunted house in like 12 years and on top of that he wanted to go in costume!! I had nothing to wear except the champagne outfit that I had from last year. And let me just tell you, that champagne costume is not haunted house appropriate! But I didn't know what else to do, so I wore it and tried to be as confident as I could in it :)
We were waiting in line to enter the haunted house and they have all these characters that are roaming the parking lot trying to scare people. I, of course, was an easy target for these people because I stuck out like a sore thumb in my short, tight, slutty champagne outfit (plus I was wearing heels, big mistake!). One guy dressed as a scary clown squirted me with water (not real happy about that) and another guy came up to me and burped in my face!! After that Gage was good about trying to block me from the characters. I think he felt bad that I was getting picked on so much! Once it was finally time to enter the haunted house, we were the first ones in our group to enter. It was actually good because we didn't have 14 year old girls screaming in our ears the whole time :) But I had a death grip on Gage's hand and there was no way I was letting go! It was actually a pretty smart move on his part to go to a haunted house because it was second nature to grab on to him or hold his hand as we walked through the haunted house. He was also really good about turning around and making sure that I was doing ok throughout the whole thing, which I thought was sweet. Overall, I had a good time at the haunted house but I told Gage that I was definitely going to need a cocktail afterwards!
After the haunted house, we decided to go downtown to people watch and grab a few drinks. Let me tell you, we saw some interesting costumes! At one bar we saw a woman who had to be at least 45 in a slutty nurse costume and when she leaned over to get a drink from the bar, we also realized that she was wearing thong underwear! It was kind of awkward for us both, but we also laughed about it. Honestly, I think Gage was kind of embarrassed, while I was like "Why does she think its appropriate to wear an outfit like that!" We then headed to a different bar that wasn't quite so crowded and played a couple of games of pool and talked. The whole date was a lot of fun, the only bad thing was that my feet were KILLING me by the time we left the last bar to head home! I literally could barely walk and Gage kept offering to carry me on his back. I politely declined because as I told him, I didn't need my ass to be hanging out all over Austin like some of the other people we had seen that night!
Then on Sunday, he randomly texted me to see if I wanted to grab a late lunch. I had already eaten but told him that I would come keep him company and hang out while he got something. In the end, we decided to go to Central Market (its kind of like Whole Foods) to grab some snack-type foods and a bottle of wine to have a little picnic. It wasn't actually a picnic because we just ate at the tables that are outside of Central Market, but you get the idea :) We had really good conversation and he's a really interesting guy, so he's easy to talk to. The good thing is that he's also interested in what I'm doing or hope to be doing someday down the road, which is nice. Again, a good date that I can't complain about! We haven't made plans for anything this week, but I'm thinking I'm going to see if he wants to meet on Wednesday to try a restaurant that I've been eyeing. I guess the good thing in this whole situation is that I'm actually interested in seeing him again. Its been a long time since I've had that feeling!!
Oh, and the best part of this whole weekend....he was a lot cuter than I remembered :)
The dates. So we ended up going to a haunted house on Saturday night. I was a little nervous because I haven't been to a haunted house in like 12 years and on top of that he wanted to go in costume!! I had nothing to wear except the champagne outfit that I had from last year. And let me just tell you, that champagne costume is not haunted house appropriate! But I didn't know what else to do, so I wore it and tried to be as confident as I could in it :)
We were waiting in line to enter the haunted house and they have all these characters that are roaming the parking lot trying to scare people. I, of course, was an easy target for these people because I stuck out like a sore thumb in my short, tight, slutty champagne outfit (plus I was wearing heels, big mistake!). One guy dressed as a scary clown squirted me with water (not real happy about that) and another guy came up to me and burped in my face!! After that Gage was good about trying to block me from the characters. I think he felt bad that I was getting picked on so much! Once it was finally time to enter the haunted house, we were the first ones in our group to enter. It was actually good because we didn't have 14 year old girls screaming in our ears the whole time :) But I had a death grip on Gage's hand and there was no way I was letting go! It was actually a pretty smart move on his part to go to a haunted house because it was second nature to grab on to him or hold his hand as we walked through the haunted house. He was also really good about turning around and making sure that I was doing ok throughout the whole thing, which I thought was sweet. Overall, I had a good time at the haunted house but I told Gage that I was definitely going to need a cocktail afterwards!
After the haunted house, we decided to go downtown to people watch and grab a few drinks. Let me tell you, we saw some interesting costumes! At one bar we saw a woman who had to be at least 45 in a slutty nurse costume and when she leaned over to get a drink from the bar, we also realized that she was wearing thong underwear! It was kind of awkward for us both, but we also laughed about it. Honestly, I think Gage was kind of embarrassed, while I was like "Why does she think its appropriate to wear an outfit like that!" We then headed to a different bar that wasn't quite so crowded and played a couple of games of pool and talked. The whole date was a lot of fun, the only bad thing was that my feet were KILLING me by the time we left the last bar to head home! I literally could barely walk and Gage kept offering to carry me on his back. I politely declined because as I told him, I didn't need my ass to be hanging out all over Austin like some of the other people we had seen that night!
Then on Sunday, he randomly texted me to see if I wanted to grab a late lunch. I had already eaten but told him that I would come keep him company and hang out while he got something. In the end, we decided to go to Central Market (its kind of like Whole Foods) to grab some snack-type foods and a bottle of wine to have a little picnic. It wasn't actually a picnic because we just ate at the tables that are outside of Central Market, but you get the idea :) We had really good conversation and he's a really interesting guy, so he's easy to talk to. The good thing is that he's also interested in what I'm doing or hope to be doing someday down the road, which is nice. Again, a good date that I can't complain about! We haven't made plans for anything this week, but I'm thinking I'm going to see if he wants to meet on Wednesday to try a restaurant that I've been eyeing. I guess the good thing in this whole situation is that I'm actually interested in seeing him again. Its been a long time since I've had that feeling!!
Oh, and the best part of this whole weekend....he was a lot cuter than I remembered :)
Saturday, October 30, 2010
A Couple of Updates
I know I've been a little MIA this week but the Match circuit has been slow and I was traveling for work most of the week. However, I do have a few updates to share with you.
First, as I mentioned, its been pretty slow this week in terms of guys showing interest in my profile. Sure, I've gotten some winks from small Indian men and an email or two from Latino musicians but unfortunately nothing of much interest. I even sent my first email to a guy without him contacting me first and I got no response!! Unfortunately, I think I'm going to have to be more proactive in my search and actually start contacting some of these guys first. But when I don't get any response it makes me a little self-conscious (and worried) that that's not going to work!
Secondly, I was supposed to go out with coffeehouse Chris on Friday night, but after thinking about it during the week I decided to cancel. I thought he was a really nice guy but there just wasn't a connection there and we didn't have anything in common. So after some convincing from some great girlfriends, I decided to email him and cancel the date. This is what I said.
"Hi Chris,
First, as I mentioned, its been pretty slow this week in terms of guys showing interest in my profile. Sure, I've gotten some winks from small Indian men and an email or two from Latino musicians but unfortunately nothing of much interest. I even sent my first email to a guy without him contacting me first and I got no response!! Unfortunately, I think I'm going to have to be more proactive in my search and actually start contacting some of these guys first. But when I don't get any response it makes me a little self-conscious (and worried) that that's not going to work!
Secondly, I was supposed to go out with coffeehouse Chris on Friday night, but after thinking about it during the week I decided to cancel. I thought he was a really nice guy but there just wasn't a connection there and we didn't have anything in common. So after some convincing from some great girlfriends, I decided to email him and cancel the date. This is what I said.
"Hi Chris,
Hope you've had a good week. Its been crazy busy for me. I am definitely ready to get home and sleep in my own bed!
So I've been thinking about our date tomorrow and I think I'm going to respectfully decline your offer. I think you are a really nice guy and I enjoyed talking with you at Spider House, but I just don't think that we have a lot in common. And I don't feel that its fair to go out on another date with you when I don't see things going past a second date. I'm trying to be honest with myself and other people that I meet through this process and so that's why I wanted to send you this email. I apologize for the late notice, but I hope you understand.
Good luck with your search,
Julie"
He emailed me back pretty quickly saying, that's cool and thanks for the email. He was a total gentleman about it! Like I said, he's a really nice guy but for some reason I just couldn't find the attraction...
Lastly, I have been talking sporadically with deep conversations Gage :) We've texted back and forth a couple of times over the last few days and on Friday we talked about maybe meeting up sometime this weekend to either go to a haunted house or to go downtown and people watch with all the crazy costumes that are sure to come out. The problem with Gage is that he's not quick on making plans. He tells me that we should hang out this weekend but then never says when. For example, his last text to me was the about the haunted house or going downtown. I texted back sure lets meet up that sounds fun and I haven't heard anything since! So does he mean Saturday or Sunday? Does he want to hang out during the day or just at night?? Its just kind of annoying that he doesn't give me more of a heads up on what the plans are. Especially since I will make other plans if I haven't heard from you!
So those are the updates for now. My plan this week is to get some courage (or maybe just drink liquid courage) and to start reaching out to guys on my own. Scary!! I'll let you know how it goes :)
Saturday, October 23, 2010
Other News
In other news, my brother got engaged yesterday!! I'm so excited for him and I absolutely adore his girlfriend/fiancee! They are such a great couple and so happy together. I just can't believe that my little brother is getting married....especially before me ;) But in all honestly, I couldn't be happier for them.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, I'm headed to Chicago today for my good friend, Blythe's birthday. I'm so excited to see her and hang out tonight but there will be somebody there that I'm not too excited to see...the ex-boyfriend. The good news is that I have a fabulous outfit to wear! Even though its been 3 years since we broke up, for some reason, I still feel like I have to prove something to him - like that I'm fun, cute and have a ton of boyfriend prospects :) I'm not worried about seeing him and I'm of course going to be friendly, it will just be interesting to see how things go. Wish me luck :)
On the opposite end of the spectrum, I'm headed to Chicago today for my good friend, Blythe's birthday. I'm so excited to see her and hang out tonight but there will be somebody there that I'm not too excited to see...the ex-boyfriend. The good news is that I have a fabulous outfit to wear! Even though its been 3 years since we broke up, for some reason, I still feel like I have to prove something to him - like that I'm fun, cute and have a ton of boyfriend prospects :) I'm not worried about seeing him and I'm of course going to be friendly, it will just be interesting to see how things go. Wish me luck :)
Doozy of a Date
Wow, I don't really even know where to start with the date that I went on last night so get comfy because this is going to be a long post! Overall it was good, but definitely random. To start with, it took Gage a while to actually tell me what the plan was and what time I should meet him. It was a little annoying that he didn't give me the heads up earlier but in the end it turned out fine.
We met at a bar called Club Deville for a couple of drinks (and fyi, he looked nothing like his profile pictures!) I had never been there before and it was a laid back, cool place, plus I always like trying new places. So we're sitting there having that initial small talk, when the bartender comes up to us and asks if we want his tickets to the Gorillaz concert that night. Now you know how terrible I am with music but I had heard of the Gorillaz and knew some of their songs from several years ago. The guy was selling the pair for a total of $20 so we figured why not. So yes, last night I went to a Gorillaz concert where I knew none of the songs, was definitely one of the oldest people there and was a little worried that I might get some side effects from all of the second hand marijuana smoke! For the most part the music was fine and we danced along as best we could in the small space that we had - the concert was at the arena that UT plays basketball in. About half way through the set we decide to go down and get a drink. We grab a beer and start chatting downstairs before heading back up to the concert. And before I know it we're having a D&M (deep & meaningful) conversation at a Gorillaz concert! I don't even really know what we talked about, but it was a lot of what we each want to do with our lives in terms of jobs and goals, and then it got into religion and before I knew it we were talking politics! Seriously! But it was all good conversation. We were down there for probably 30 minutes and then we finally decide to head back into the concert, but it was the last song (which was so disappointing to me....just kidding!).
So now that the concert is over we decided to go grab one more drink. We headed to a different bar than Club Deville because there was another band playing there and we didn't want to pay cover. So we go to another bar, get a table and the serious talk continues. I don't know, this guy wanted to talk about some pretty serious stuff last night, but for some reason it didn't really bother me. I feel like he's someone that needs to know that there are good people out there and I want to be the one to show him that. I'm not saying that I think he's going to be the one guy I date from Match, but for some reason he intrigues me a little bit. I don't even know if he likes me but I would like to see him again just to see if there is anything there. We finally wrapped things up around midnight and we both headed home. He walked me to my car, we hugged and then each went our separate ways. He also called me later to make sure that I got home ok, which I thought was nice, and to say that he had a good time with me. He knows that I'm going to be out of town for the next couple of days so it will be interesting to see how things play out over the next few days!
I've also got an update on the other guy, Chris. He texted me today to tell me to have a safe trip and he also asked me out for Friday night next week. I agreed but then I remembered that it was Halloween weekend, so I'm kind of regretting that decision. But maybe it will just be for drinks and nothing to extensive. I have a feeling that I need to start planning my exit strategy with Chris because I just don't think there is much of a connection there...Anyone have any good exit strategies that they want to share with me :)
We met at a bar called Club Deville for a couple of drinks (and fyi, he looked nothing like his profile pictures!) I had never been there before and it was a laid back, cool place, plus I always like trying new places. So we're sitting there having that initial small talk, when the bartender comes up to us and asks if we want his tickets to the Gorillaz concert that night. Now you know how terrible I am with music but I had heard of the Gorillaz and knew some of their songs from several years ago. The guy was selling the pair for a total of $20 so we figured why not. So yes, last night I went to a Gorillaz concert where I knew none of the songs, was definitely one of the oldest people there and was a little worried that I might get some side effects from all of the second hand marijuana smoke! For the most part the music was fine and we danced along as best we could in the small space that we had - the concert was at the arena that UT plays basketball in. About half way through the set we decide to go down and get a drink. We grab a beer and start chatting downstairs before heading back up to the concert. And before I know it we're having a D&M (deep & meaningful) conversation at a Gorillaz concert! I don't even really know what we talked about, but it was a lot of what we each want to do with our lives in terms of jobs and goals, and then it got into religion and before I knew it we were talking politics! Seriously! But it was all good conversation. We were down there for probably 30 minutes and then we finally decide to head back into the concert, but it was the last song (which was so disappointing to me....just kidding!).
So now that the concert is over we decided to go grab one more drink. We headed to a different bar than Club Deville because there was another band playing there and we didn't want to pay cover. So we go to another bar, get a table and the serious talk continues. I don't know, this guy wanted to talk about some pretty serious stuff last night, but for some reason it didn't really bother me. I feel like he's someone that needs to know that there are good people out there and I want to be the one to show him that. I'm not saying that I think he's going to be the one guy I date from Match, but for some reason he intrigues me a little bit. I don't even know if he likes me but I would like to see him again just to see if there is anything there. We finally wrapped things up around midnight and we both headed home. He walked me to my car, we hugged and then each went our separate ways. He also called me later to make sure that I got home ok, which I thought was nice, and to say that he had a good time with me. He knows that I'm going to be out of town for the next couple of days so it will be interesting to see how things play out over the next few days!
I've also got an update on the other guy, Chris. He texted me today to tell me to have a safe trip and he also asked me out for Friday night next week. I agreed but then I remembered that it was Halloween weekend, so I'm kind of regretting that decision. But maybe it will just be for drinks and nothing to extensive. I have a feeling that I need to start planning my exit strategy with Chris because I just don't think there is much of a connection there...Anyone have any good exit strategies that they want to share with me :)
Friday, October 22, 2010
Date #1
The first date went okay. It was one of those dates that wasn't bad, it just wasn't really great and there wasn't any kind of spark. Chris is a very nice guy but I'm just not sure he's my type...
We went to a place that is a coffee house/bar. I was originally planning on getting coffee but then when our waiter came over and told me that margaritas were on special that today, I quickly changed my mind! And let's be honest, I didn't really want coffee to begin with :) Conversation was fine and there weren't really any awkward silences but we don't have much in common. For those of you that remember my game from the first round of online dating "Quote of the Night" I'm going to try and keep that up this time too. So the quote of the night from yesterday was "Instruments are like colors, each one has a specific color and you can paint a canvas with all of the different sounds they make". He openly admitted that it sounded weird and cheesy, so at least he was completely serious about the whole thing! He's obviously a bit of a music nerd and plays lots of instruments, but I think he's a bit of music snob too. And the problem with that is the fact that I can't see him having fun and breaking it down to someone like Britney anytime soon (and you know how much I love Britney!). Overall I would give the date a B and he did ask to see me again. I told him that I'm going to be out of town most of next week but he wants to get together when I get back, and I didn't know how to say no. So I guess I'll be seeing him again next week. I guess I"ll give it another shot since nothing too crazy happened on the first date.
With regards to Gage, I have no idea what's going to happen tonight with him. I texted him last night to see if he still wanted to get together because I hadn't heard from him about any plans. His text back was "sure, why not, pick your poison". Hmm, less than enthusiastic in my opinion. I tried to joke back with him and said don't act so excited, you know we could actually have fun! So now I kind of feel like this is a project where I want to prove to him that it can be fun and that meeting up with someone is not as scary or bad as he might think. We'll see what happens!
We went to a place that is a coffee house/bar. I was originally planning on getting coffee but then when our waiter came over and told me that margaritas were on special that today, I quickly changed my mind! And let's be honest, I didn't really want coffee to begin with :) Conversation was fine and there weren't really any awkward silences but we don't have much in common. For those of you that remember my game from the first round of online dating "Quote of the Night" I'm going to try and keep that up this time too. So the quote of the night from yesterday was "Instruments are like colors, each one has a specific color and you can paint a canvas with all of the different sounds they make". He openly admitted that it sounded weird and cheesy, so at least he was completely serious about the whole thing! He's obviously a bit of a music nerd and plays lots of instruments, but I think he's a bit of music snob too. And the problem with that is the fact that I can't see him having fun and breaking it down to someone like Britney anytime soon (and you know how much I love Britney!). Overall I would give the date a B and he did ask to see me again. I told him that I'm going to be out of town most of next week but he wants to get together when I get back, and I didn't know how to say no. So I guess I'll be seeing him again next week. I guess I"ll give it another shot since nothing too crazy happened on the first date.
With regards to Gage, I have no idea what's going to happen tonight with him. I texted him last night to see if he still wanted to get together because I hadn't heard from him about any plans. His text back was "sure, why not, pick your poison". Hmm, less than enthusiastic in my opinion. I tried to joke back with him and said don't act so excited, you know we could actually have fun! So now I kind of feel like this is a project where I want to prove to him that it can be fun and that meeting up with someone is not as scary or bad as he might think. We'll see what happens!
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